Breaking Mr. Wrong's Hold

Sometimes in life, two people meet, fall madly in love and live happily ever after without ever having to go through constant ups and downs and heartbreaks. There are those few who get it right on the first try...then there are the rest of us.

There are times where the person that you give your all to doesn't want or just can't give you same love, respect and effort in return. Then you're forced to make a decision: continue to hold on to something that isn't there, or acknowledge the fact that you deserve better and remove yourself from the situation. But, sometimes breaking the hold that someone can have over you is easier said than done. There can be a list as long as your arm of reasons that relationship is no good for you and will never work, but that one thing will make you defy all logic and hold you back from making what seems to be the best decision for everyone involved.

The situation between me and Mr. Wrong has been ongoing since high school. To this day, I can't make heads or tails of it. It seems ridiculous to continue to leave your heart in the care of someone who doesn't have any value for it, but I've done it time and time again. I've never been able to figure out what it is that keeps me coming back, but I haven't exactly tried either. Going against your better judgement is a lot easier when you refuse to think with your head despite your heart.

I'm 21 years old. I've been wearing blinders in regards to this relationship for five years now. I've finally reached the point where I'm ready and willing to acknowledge the fact that it's time to move on. I don't know where to begin, but I can see the ending in sight. I know it won't be easy, but breaking the hold Mr. Wrong has had on me for all these years is the only way that I'll ever be able to figure out what I really want and value in life and who knows, it may even lead to finding Mr. Right...

Down, but not Out,
-Niss, The Trophy on the Shelf (Even if No One Stops & Stares)

#nowplaying Destiny's Child - Bad Habit

It's Not Me, It's You

Once upon a time, there was a girl. This girl was smart, intelligent, working to put herself through her last year of college with her own apartment with no children. She was pretty, funny and had a bright future ahead of us. She met this guy. He was handsome, hardworking, educated and had no women, children and drama. Girl meets boy. Girl becomes smitten with boy and gets up the courage to tell boy how she feels about him. Boy feels the same way and they live happily ever after. Sounds like a cute PG-13 movie with the happy ending.

So many of us try to act like rejection doesn't happen to us, and for some people, that may be a reality. However, for the majority of us it isn't. Rejection is a part of life. What's good for the goose isn't always good for the gander. You can't be right for everyone. Just because you read signals wrong or you really genuinely felt something for someone who didn't feel the same way, it doesn't make you any less of a good person or any less worthy of having someone who will love you unconditionally someday.

So many of us try to avoid the feeling that being rejected gives us which leads to being afraid of expressing yourself and putting your heart out in the open. Sometimes you have to get hurt to know what it feels like when it's right. After you get over that initial feeling of hurt, you realize that rejection has nothing to do with your physical appearance, your personality, or whether or not you're deserving of someone loving you. Every rejection you bounce back from makes it easier to go out and take the next risk that may be the one to lead to your happy ending.

Just a thought :)

-Niss aka The Trophy on the Shelf (Even if No One Stops & Stares)

#nowplaying Wale - Beautiful Bliss (featuring J.Cole and Melanie Fiona)